By Christine Kloser
What would it look like to lead your life in every moment of every day? I’ve been asking myself this question lately. You’d think being the leader that I am out there in the world with my business… that I’d be leading everywhere in my life.
But, I’m human. And, there are places in my life where I haven’t been leading myself at the level I know I can. So, I’m going to open the vault and share with you something that keeps me from leading EVERYWHERE in my life, and what steps you and I both can take to shift them.
One of the things that keeps me from leading everywhere in my life is laziness. You may be shocked to hear this because I probably don’t appear as someone who is lazy. But, I’ve discovered that often times I put all of my focus and energy into helping my clients step into their greatness, that when I’m not working on my business, I want to take a break and not step into my leadership 100% of the time. I convince myself that when I’m “off duty” I deserve to rest.
Now, just in case you’re saying “yes” of course you deserve a break, you should relax and take some down time for yourself… I’m not talking about that kind of rest. I’ve talking about allowing my consciousness to rest, and that’s not OK with me. In fact, letting my consciousness rest is what gets me in trouble.
It’s not pleasant to admit this to you, or to myself. But, it’s important for me to share it now as I’m being called to uplevel my personal leadership in bigger ways. This all came into more clarity this morning as I was talking with my husband about the work we’re doing with our spiritual teacher. So it’s fresh in my mind and ripe for sharing… and shifting. I hope it is serving you, too!
So, my antidote to laziness is to live my life as who I am when I’m doing my highest work at the Freedom Retreats. At the Freedom Retreats, I am 100% present, connected to Source, available, tuned-in, direct, loving, open to wisdom, trusting, trusted, and masterful in creating the space and safety to facilitate deep transformation and freedom. Literally, the Freedom Retreats feel like heaven on earth for me, and the participants.
Showing up in this way in every moment is going to help me, personally, experience a deeper level of freedom for myself. I don’t expect it to happen overnight, but I do expect myself to take steps in this direction everyday.
So, let me ask you, now… do you look at your life and see pockets of leadership and pocket of laziness? If so, I encourage you to look at who you are when you show up as a leader, and how you can translate that into those areas of your life where you are lazy.
And, now for a word of caution… be gentle and compassionate with yourself. Discovering new things about yourself can be unpleasant and challenging. Remember that you are a spiritual being having a human experience. And, everything you discover that is keeping your soul from living its highest expression in this life… is SERVING you. You are here to experience freedom in the highest possible way. Celebrate those times you discover what’s holding you back… they are in fact the key to your freedom!
[Note: Here’s a link to watch a my music video for "The Key to Freedom." Enjoy! www.loveyourlife.com/keytofreedom]
© 2010 Christine Kloser
Would you like to use this article? You may as long as you include the following information along with the article: Christine Kloser is the award-winning author of The Freedom Formula and Conscious Entrepreneurs. She is widely recognized as an expert in the field of conscious entrepreneurship having spoken alongside such luminaries as Neale Donald Walsch, Dr. Joe Vitale, Arielle Ford, James Twyman and Marianne Williamson. Christine works with entrepreneurs to embrace a new paradigm of success… helping them experience true freedom and fulfillment in their life and their business. Get a F R E E chapter of her award-winning book, The Freedom Formula at www.thefreedomformula.com/freechapter.
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Thursday, June 10, 2010
Asking For Help
By Christine Kloser
For years I struggle with asking for help. It seems to be a common thing among many entrepreneurs… the feeling that you have to “do it all.” This feeling usually lies at the surface for us, because entrepreneurs are typically capable, confident, creative, “go getter” kind of people. We have a vision, a mission, a calling and a commitment to do what we need to do to achieve our goals in the world.
Yet, sometimes being capable can turn into overcompensation and drive home the feeling that we must do it all. When in reality, nothing could be further from the truth.
I remember the first time I heard Loral Langemeier speak. She had come out to Los Angeles to talk at my one-day seminars for women entrepreneurs. One of the things she shared was that nobody is a “self-made” millionaire. She went on to say that every millionaire out there is a “team-made” millionaire… because they realized and utilized the value of having other people support them on their journey of success.
So, why is it so difficult to ask for help? For me, it’s a rather long and complicated answer with lots of dynamics at play, but the bottom-line is that I viewed asking for help as a sign of weakness. Couple that with my other thought that nobody would be there for me anyway even if I did ask, and you get one overworked, overstressed, “all too important” wonder woman… who really can’t do everything she thinks she can and still enjoy a high quality of life.
Thankfully, I’ve woken up to the gifts of asking for help. I think the turning point for me in asking for help was in 2008 when I called one of my book coaching/publishing “competitors” and asked her for a meeting to talk about working together. In the past I wouldn’t have let myself do that, especially with someone who could be viewed as a direct “competitor.” What if she said “no, thank you?” I would have been seen as weak (in my eyes).
But, she said “yes” and the gifts of joining in partnership with Lynne have been so abundant that I can’t imagine what my publishing business (or my life) would look like had I never gathered the courage and strength to ask her if she wanted to work in partnership with me and help grow our business together.
Now, we’ve grown to the point where we have lots of exciting, new projects on the table (you’ll be hearing about them soon) and we’ve asked for and received tons of help with all of them. Literally, we have a team around us that allows Lynne and I to be in our brilliance and creativity while having all the help we need… where others do those things we don’t do well or don’t want to do.
Asking for help brings you freedom! It brings you peace of mind. And, it brings the knowingness that at the heart of every human being is the desire to offer help. Just think about how good you feel when someone asks you for something and you step up to help them. Whether it’s the old woman at the grocery store who needs help reaching to the top shelf for an item, or a friend who is in crisis and needs a shoulder to cry on, to a marketing partner who you’re happy to support, or a client who needs an extra nudge with a challenge they’re going through.
Our hearts are abundant with the desire to be of service and help others. And, it’s a two-way street. As much as your heart is ready, willing and eager to help other people… their hearts are ready willing and eager to help you! Remember, it’s OK to need and want help, it’s OK to ask for help and there are people who will be happy to help YOU… including me!
Note: If you want MY help, please join me tomorrow for my F R E E monthly group coaching call, “Wake Up Wednesday.” Get the details at:
www.LoveYourLife.com/wakeupwednesday
© 2010 Christine Kloser
Would you like to use this article? You may as long as you include the following information along with the article: Christine Kloser is the award-winning author of The Freedom Formula and Conscious Entrepreneurs. She is widely recognized as an expert in the field of conscious entrepreneurship having spoken alongside such luminaries as Neale Donald Walsch, Dr. Joe Vitale, Arielle Ford, James Twyman and Marianne Williamson. Christine works with entrepreneurs to embrace a new paradigm of success… helping them experience true freedom and fulfillment in their life and their business. Get a F R E E chapter of her award-winning book, The Freedom Formula at www.thefreedomformula.com/freechapter.
For years I struggle with asking for help. It seems to be a common thing among many entrepreneurs… the feeling that you have to “do it all.” This feeling usually lies at the surface for us, because entrepreneurs are typically capable, confident, creative, “go getter” kind of people. We have a vision, a mission, a calling and a commitment to do what we need to do to achieve our goals in the world.
Yet, sometimes being capable can turn into overcompensation and drive home the feeling that we must do it all. When in reality, nothing could be further from the truth.
I remember the first time I heard Loral Langemeier speak. She had come out to Los Angeles to talk at my one-day seminars for women entrepreneurs. One of the things she shared was that nobody is a “self-made” millionaire. She went on to say that every millionaire out there is a “team-made” millionaire… because they realized and utilized the value of having other people support them on their journey of success.
So, why is it so difficult to ask for help? For me, it’s a rather long and complicated answer with lots of dynamics at play, but the bottom-line is that I viewed asking for help as a sign of weakness. Couple that with my other thought that nobody would be there for me anyway even if I did ask, and you get one overworked, overstressed, “all too important” wonder woman… who really can’t do everything she thinks she can and still enjoy a high quality of life.
Thankfully, I’ve woken up to the gifts of asking for help. I think the turning point for me in asking for help was in 2008 when I called one of my book coaching/publishing “competitors” and asked her for a meeting to talk about working together. In the past I wouldn’t have let myself do that, especially with someone who could be viewed as a direct “competitor.” What if she said “no, thank you?” I would have been seen as weak (in my eyes).
But, she said “yes” and the gifts of joining in partnership with Lynne have been so abundant that I can’t imagine what my publishing business (or my life) would look like had I never gathered the courage and strength to ask her if she wanted to work in partnership with me and help grow our business together.
Now, we’ve grown to the point where we have lots of exciting, new projects on the table (you’ll be hearing about them soon) and we’ve asked for and received tons of help with all of them. Literally, we have a team around us that allows Lynne and I to be in our brilliance and creativity while having all the help we need… where others do those things we don’t do well or don’t want to do.
Asking for help brings you freedom! It brings you peace of mind. And, it brings the knowingness that at the heart of every human being is the desire to offer help. Just think about how good you feel when someone asks you for something and you step up to help them. Whether it’s the old woman at the grocery store who needs help reaching to the top shelf for an item, or a friend who is in crisis and needs a shoulder to cry on, to a marketing partner who you’re happy to support, or a client who needs an extra nudge with a challenge they’re going through.
Our hearts are abundant with the desire to be of service and help others. And, it’s a two-way street. As much as your heart is ready, willing and eager to help other people… their hearts are ready willing and eager to help you! Remember, it’s OK to need and want help, it’s OK to ask for help and there are people who will be happy to help YOU… including me!
Note: If you want MY help, please join me tomorrow for my F R E E monthly group coaching call, “Wake Up Wednesday.” Get the details at:
www.LoveYourLife.com/wakeupwednesday
© 2010 Christine Kloser
Would you like to use this article? You may as long as you include the following information along with the article: Christine Kloser is the award-winning author of The Freedom Formula and Conscious Entrepreneurs. She is widely recognized as an expert in the field of conscious entrepreneurship having spoken alongside such luminaries as Neale Donald Walsch, Dr. Joe Vitale, Arielle Ford, James Twyman and Marianne Williamson. Christine works with entrepreneurs to embrace a new paradigm of success… helping them experience true freedom and fulfillment in their life and their business. Get a F R E E chapter of her award-winning book, The Freedom Formula at www.thefreedomformula.com/freechapter.
Thursday, November 19, 2009
Running Scared or Running Free
In each and every moment of your life (including this moment right now) you have an important choice to make. Will you choose to be scared, or choose to be free? In the events of the past few weeks, and the passing of my mother-in-law, I was acutely aware of the choices I had in each moment.
When my husband and I found out how suddenly the end was approaching, it was quite shocking (and untimely). There was a tiny voice in side of me that started going through all of the “what if’s.” What if she passed before David got there? What if I needed to close my business for the week… or cancel my retreat? What if I never got to say goodbye? What if…
As soon as I noticed the contractions around all of the “what if’s,” I realized they were all coming from a place of fear. They were making me feel like I was running scared. I’ve never gone through this before; I didn’t know how to BE or what to do. So, I asked myself, “is this how I want to be feeling right now?” Did I want to be feeling the fear, the frantic energy and the worry about “what if?” Well, the only answer to that question was no.
So, instead I chose to feel free within myself and make decisions from that space. Not surprisingly, grace joined me in that place and we easily got my husband on the next plane out of Baltimore with no problem. (While he didn’t make it to his mom before she passed, he made peace within himself around her passing.) I changed the date of my retreat to start one day later and the attendees adjusted to the change with such grace, as did the bed and breakfast I was holding it at… they had the exact number of rooms I needed for the new dates. My parents quickly adjusted their schedule to watch Janet while I was at the retreat so David could stay with his father in Sacramento for an extra week. And, on and on…
I stopped running scared that I wouldn’t have the time I had planned to prepare for the retreat, and chose to release my attachment to what I “thought” I “needed” to do… and the freedom within me allowed for more grace to unfold in a magical retreat. Instead of running scared about some commitment I had to break, I chose to be fr-ee within myself and not beat myself up about having to let some things go so I could be present with my husband and family.
There was so much happening in such a short period of time, each moment was a choice I had to make. Will I run “scared” or will I run “free?”
I invite you to ask yourself this same question right now with whatever is happening in your life. What are you choosing to be your experience? Are you running scared or running free?
Some of you may immediately go to a place in your mind that will quickly begin listing all of the “reasons” why you ought to be scared. Remember that this voice that causes you to feel contracted, fearful, scared, paralyzed, etc… is the voice of your ego. Simply allow yourself to acknowledge the voice. Let it feel heard.
But, as my spiritual teacher says… then turn UP the volume on the voice of your Higher Self. Listen to this voice more closely. Listen for the truth that resides deep within your soul. Your soul sings the song of freedom… no matter what circumstances may be occurring around you. It is YOU that can choose in any moment to allow fear or freedom to determine how you feel.
© 2009 Christine Kloser
Would you like to use this article? You may as long as you include the following information along with the article: Christine Kloser, author of The Freedom Formula, helps entrepreneurs put soul in their business and money in the bank. If you want to thrive in your purpose-driven, profitable business (while enjoying a soul-satisfying life), send for my special report, How to Avoid the 3 Massive Mistakes Made by Most Conscious Entrepreneurs and my audio, 7 Strategies Entrepreneurial Authors Need to Know... Before Writing a Word, both of which you get (at no charge) when you request my Conscious Business Success Kit at www.LoveYourLife.com.
When my husband and I found out how suddenly the end was approaching, it was quite shocking (and untimely). There was a tiny voice in side of me that started going through all of the “what if’s.” What if she passed before David got there? What if I needed to close my business for the week… or cancel my retreat? What if I never got to say goodbye? What if…
As soon as I noticed the contractions around all of the “what if’s,” I realized they were all coming from a place of fear. They were making me feel like I was running scared. I’ve never gone through this before; I didn’t know how to BE or what to do. So, I asked myself, “is this how I want to be feeling right now?” Did I want to be feeling the fear, the frantic energy and the worry about “what if?” Well, the only answer to that question was no.
So, instead I chose to feel free within myself and make decisions from that space. Not surprisingly, grace joined me in that place and we easily got my husband on the next plane out of Baltimore with no problem. (While he didn’t make it to his mom before she passed, he made peace within himself around her passing.) I changed the date of my retreat to start one day later and the attendees adjusted to the change with such grace, as did the bed and breakfast I was holding it at… they had the exact number of rooms I needed for the new dates. My parents quickly adjusted their schedule to watch Janet while I was at the retreat so David could stay with his father in Sacramento for an extra week. And, on and on…
I stopped running scared that I wouldn’t have the time I had planned to prepare for the retreat, and chose to release my attachment to what I “thought” I “needed” to do… and the freedom within me allowed for more grace to unfold in a magical retreat. Instead of running scared about some commitment I had to break, I chose to be fr-ee within myself and not beat myself up about having to let some things go so I could be present with my husband and family.
There was so much happening in such a short period of time, each moment was a choice I had to make. Will I run “scared” or will I run “free?”
I invite you to ask yourself this same question right now with whatever is happening in your life. What are you choosing to be your experience? Are you running scared or running free?
Some of you may immediately go to a place in your mind that will quickly begin listing all of the “reasons” why you ought to be scared. Remember that this voice that causes you to feel contracted, fearful, scared, paralyzed, etc… is the voice of your ego. Simply allow yourself to acknowledge the voice. Let it feel heard.
But, as my spiritual teacher says… then turn UP the volume on the voice of your Higher Self. Listen to this voice more closely. Listen for the truth that resides deep within your soul. Your soul sings the song of freedom… no matter what circumstances may be occurring around you. It is YOU that can choose in any moment to allow fear or freedom to determine how you feel.
© 2009 Christine Kloser
Would you like to use this article? You may as long as you include the following information along with the article: Christine Kloser, author of The Freedom Formula, helps entrepreneurs put soul in their business and money in the bank. If you want to thrive in your purpose-driven, profitable business (while enjoying a soul-satisfying life), send for my special report, How to Avoid the 3 Massive Mistakes Made by Most Conscious Entrepreneurs and my audio, 7 Strategies Entrepreneurial Authors Need to Know... Before Writing a Word, both of which you get (at no charge) when you request my Conscious Business Success Kit at www.LoveYourLife.com.
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